By Kristin Krarup-Joyce
Although the holiday season is full of fun activities, it can also be a stressful time for some children (and adults!).
Changes in routine, visiting with relatives you may not see often, family dinners with “different” foods can all cause children to feel frustrated. Here is a list of the Top 7 Holiday Stressors for Kids (and what you can do to help kids cope.)
- Dressing up. Some kids are sensitive to the textures of certain fabrics, making fancy clothes very uncomfortable. Help your child cope by choosing soft, cotton fabrics. Remove itchy tags. Have a change of clothes available and allow your child to change as soon as possible!
- Seeing Santa. This can be traumatic for some kids. I’ve heard recently about Santas who have suggested very expensive gifts when children can’t think of what to tell Santa they would like for Christmas. Help your child cope by practicing with you before she sees Santa. Have your child sit on your lap and tell you what she would like for Christmas. Or, have her write s short list to give to Santa.
- Receiving Gifts. Your child might receive a gift he doesn’t like. Prepare for this ahead of time by giving your child phrases to say, “Oh, thank you!” or “Thank you for thinking of me.” Keep in my mind that this may take ongoing practice!
- Holiday Foods. Your child may not like the taste, texture, or appearance of traditional holiday foods. Try “thank you” bites. Encourage your child to try a tiny bite and say “No, thank you” if she doesn’t like it or “Yes, thank you” if she does. Also, bring something that you know your child will eat.
- Party Crowds. Noise and chaos make many kids anxious. Physical contact like hugs and kisses from distant relatives may also add to their anxiety. Help your child cope by taking him out of the fray. Find a cozy corner where he can watch, smile and wave. Or, ask if he can hang out in a quiet space.
- Small Talk. Chit-chat at family gatherings about “how much you’ve grown,” or “how is school?” is common. This can be awkward for some kids. Help your child cope by role playing social interactions ahead of time. Practice answers to these questions and help your child come with questions she can ask, too.
- Holiday Decorations. Bright blinking lights and loud holiday music can be annoying to some children. Make sure you have a “holiday-free” zone in your house where your child can relax.
Adapted from Holiday Stressors understood.org
